Men’s Rights in a Country like India

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Mahesh Shinde is an engineer from Pune, India, who works for a manufacturing company. He’s also the President of the Men’s Rights Association (M.R.A), a registered NGO working solely to protect the honour and dignity of men. This is just one of the many organisations worldwide that have taken up this particular cause. On International Men’s Day, (November 19), Let’s take a look into what Men’s Rights actually mean to these organisations. Here’s an interview with Mr. Shinde about the organisation, its goals and philosophy.

  • Tell me a little about Men’s Rights Association. How did you get involved with the NGO? How often does the group meet?

Men’s Rights Association (MRA) is an organization whose sole purpose is to fight for the elusive Men’s Rights. MRA is very revolutionary in its concepts.It has been listed in the Top 100 social organizations of Maharashtra.

We believe that men should not be made to suffer so that women can enjoy. Society should not be divided on the basis of gender. Men often tend to carry a lot of baggage due to societal pressure. They are thrust into the role of ‘provider and protector’.

Nowadays, there’s a trend to denounce men for all the problems of humanity. Indian media continuously portrays all men as the perpetrators of crime, and women as the perpetual victim. Such biased propaganda will have serious repercussions, some of which has already been seen.

In India, the suicide rate of men is much higher than that of women. (According to a report by the World Health Organization, 258,075 people committed suicide in India in 2012, with 99,977 women and 158,098 men taking their own lives). But society is apathetic to the suicides of men, whereas women’s suicides have received a lot of attention

Just because a few (less than 1%) men have power doesn’t means that we are a male-dominated society. What happens to the remaining 99%? And it is an open truth that most of these so-called Alpha males are hen-pecked, and end up dominating other men. It is stupid to call this as male dominance.

Below is some of the important work done by MRA

  • Provide free legal help and counseling to men in distress.
  • Create awareness about anti-male laws and attitude
  • Remove negativity against the male gender, and spread positive thoughts
  • Work towards reducing suicides of male.
  • Sensitize law making bodies about men’s issues.
  • Reduce violence against men.

MRA works in all spheres of life.

 

  • What do you think are the main reasons that the high rate of suicides among men goes ignored?

The suicides are ignored because society treats Men as disposable. Since society doesn’t consider Men as human beings, their suicides aren’t a serious matter for society.

 

  • What are your major demands?

We are fighting for gender equality. Our main demands are:

  • That both genders should be treated equally
  • There should be no prejudice against men
  • Treat men as humans

 

  • What kind of activities/events do you organize?

Our activities are divided into two major parts. One is helping men in distress. The other is to spread awareness, through various actions like writing campaign letters to higher authorities, RTI (Right to Information) application, police station visits to generate awareness of the law process, various awareness campaign and protests, celebrating Father’s Day, Men’s Day, etc. For the past one year we have been doing collective projects with other NGOs as well.

 

  • India has been ranked as the worst country amongst the G20 nations to be a woman. How do men’s rights figure into the scenario?

This is a canard which is used to subjugate men, and impose more inhuman conditions on men. This is a totally baseless and extremely flawed ranking. We dare those who publish such nonsense to come and have an open debate with us. We will tear their arguments to shreds.

 

  • Do you receive flak any flak regarding MRA?

Since our society is so biased against men, we are the subject of several jokes. If anyone fights for women’s rights, they are glorified, while those fighting for men’s rights are ridiculed.

 

  • Do you believe in equal treatment of both the genders?

Absolutely… And this is NOT happening, which is our main grouse.

 

  • What are your feelings about reservation for women in the parliament and other spheres?

They talk about equal rights, and then ask for reservation. This is robbery. Those asking for reservation for women, imply that women are incompetent.

 

  • What according to you are the major issues faced by men in India?

There are several. Men are trained to work hard, and what do they get in return? A man’s entire life goes in doing things for others. He has to work to provide for his wife, children, sisters. Society expects men to work for others.

 

  • Sexual abuse laws in India are often framed with terminology like ‘outraging the modesty of a woman’. Does the MRA deal with male victims of abuse? How can these laws be framed to be more inclusive regarding men?

Of course we do. In fact, in the last two years, we have seen an increase in such male victims of abuse. One of our demand is to make these laws gender neutral. Currently, male victims aren’t even considered by law.

 

  •  One of your demands is to eliminate false rape, dowry and other cases. Have you received many complaints about this? What are viable solutions to this problem? How does one differentiate between the legitimate cases and the fake ones?

Yes, we continuously receive complaints about false dowry, rape, etc. The viable solution to this problem is to modify these laws, to prevent misuse. In their present form, these laws are downright idiotic. No rational person can justify these wicked laws. If anyone reads the complaint itself, it is very clear, that it is false. And yet, complaints are being lodged because of biased laws, and the anti-male legal system.

 

  •  What might be the reasons that women lodge false rape and dowry complaints?

A primary reason is extortion. The complaints are filed to extract money from men. Otherwise, it may be to harass the husband/concerned man, harass his parents, siblings and other dear ones, humiliate him and destroy his mental peace; to push him towards suicide, or harm himself.

 

  • Can you provide some examples of the kind of complaints you receive?

With regards to dowry harassment, wives harassing their husbands for not listening to her absurd demands is quite a common complaint. The husband’s life becomes a living nightmare. The wife has a whole array of laws which she can misuse against the husband. The woman simply has to go to any police station/court and lodge complaint against her husband, and she has the upper hand. Even in cases where no complaints are lodged, mere threatening is good enough to harrass the husband. Many men take the extreme step of committing suicide because of the daily torture they face from their unscrupulous wives.
With regards to sexual harassment at workplaces, some women employees harass their male colleagues. Some women at senior posts want the men working under them to be their play-things. If the man resists, he faces further harrassment. Even with colleagues, men have faced harassment. In another case, a junior female employee filed harassment complaint against her boss, because she was asked to be more professional by him.

 

  • Do you think the new Modi government will bring about any changes for men’s rights?

No, we do not think so. However, we would like to have a dialogue with the government. We have petitioned previous governments, which didn’t pay heed to our demands. When we show factual data to the officials, all they do is accept that our demands are legitimate, but they do not have the courage and the political will power to act on it.

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The Real Fake Humans of Delhi

Ever since Brandon Stanton’s ‘Humans of New York’ (HoNY) picked up, there have been several earnest mimics of his page. And then, there’s Humans of Delhi (HoD), a satire of the ‘Humans…’ craze. Here’s an interview with not Himanshu (nH)from HoD.

“Uh.. what are you doing?” “OH HAI. We’re doing a pride march because 377 has been reinstated and so the LGBT are at a clear disadvantage and their act will now be considered and treated as a crime. So because we are all equal and they are all just like the rest of us, I’m showing my support for the community here with my friend and we’re acting lesbians.” "But your friend doesn't look quite comfortable, I would even say that she's being forced into this." "Please, when you don't know anything then don't go about poking your nose into other people's business." “That sounds deep. If you know what I mean. So what is your take on anal sex?” “EESSHHH, OMG THAT IS JUST DISGUSTING AND UNNATURAL.”
“Uh.. what are you doing?”
“OH HAI. We’re doing a pride march because 377 has been reinstated and so the LGBT are at a clear disadvantage and their act will now be considered and treated as a crime. So because we are all equal and they are all just like the rest of us, I’m showing my support for the community here with my friend and we’re acting lesbians.”
“But your friend doesn’t look quite comfortable, I would even say that she’s being forced into this.”
“Please, when you don’t know anything then don’t go about poking your nose into other people’s business.”
“That sounds deep. If you know what I mean. So what is your take on anal sex?”
“EESSHHH, OMG THAT IS JUST DISGUSTING AND UNNATURAL.”

When did you get acquainted Humans of New York?
nH- August 24th, 2013.

Are you originally from Delhi?
nH- Delhi is a city of migrants. We, however, have been residents since the original Harappans used the site as a dump.

How did you come up with the concept of Humans of Delhi, which is quite different from the rest of the spin-offs? How many contributors do you have?
nH- This concept came out of rage felt at the many ripoffs of HoNY, which frankly is a little too cheesy anyway. We don’t know about ‘quite different’ because now there seem to be as many parody HONY pages than sincere imitations.
We have only 1 contributor right now because the others are all luzers. Also, they are all gay for each other. That’s right BC, aur block karo mujhe.

"Ever had food at Jama masjid?" "Jee nahi wahan murg musalam nahi murg musalmaan milta hai." "At least leave the animals alone. They don't have a religion." "Kyun? Humari pomrainian, Sasha toh Hindu hai. Har Diwali par usse teeka bhi lagate hain hum."
“Ever had food at Jama masjid?”
“Jee nahi wahan murg musalam nahi murg musalmaan milta hai.”
“At least leave the animals alone. They don’t have a religion.”
“Kyun? Humari pomrainian, Sasha toh Hindu hai. Har Diwali par usse teeka bhi lagate hain hum.”

What does working undercover feel like?
nH- Feels good man.

Who are the people that you photograph? Are they friends/acquaintances?
nH- Some are friends, but mostly we prefer to steal copyrighted content from talented and hardworking photographers. It makes the likes all the more sweeter.

How do you carry out the shoot? Do you have some specific photo angle?
nH- We usually prefer a top-angle because then you might get to see down someone’s shirt. We don’t pre-determine anything.

What kind of feedback do you receive?
nH- Usually angry, hateful ones. It means we’re doing our job well.

Has this changed your general perspective towards life and people?
nH- Yes. We have learned that likes and shares are everything in life. We have had fights and break-ups simply because one or more of us favoured a more like-attracting post than one that was closer to our vision.

"So you're like a gang?" "I knew Bitto here from school, and then we meet Jamil when we went to his shop to a get vodafone message pack recharge done and all three of us met babbu, gullu and chironji during a cosco cricket tournament" "What do you do, I mean as a gang?" "Gullu here likes a girl, and she is saying no, so we folow her where ever she goes. Pankaj also knows little bit of hacking so we also keep checking her facebook account to make sure she is not cheating on Gullu" "What if she keeps saying no?" "Jamil's cousin sells acid for home use"
“So you’re like a gang?”
“I knew Bitto here from school, and then we meet Jamil when we went to his shop to a get vodafone message pack recharge done and all three of us met babbu, gullu and chironji during a cosco cricket tournament”
“What do you do, I mean as a gang?”
“Gullu here likes a girl, and she is saying no, so we folow her where ever she goes. Pankaj also knows little bit of hacking so we also keep checking her facebook account to make sure she is not cheating on Gullu”
“What if she keeps saying no?”
“Jamil’s cousin sells acid for home use”

Check out their Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Humans-of-Delhi/638988479488911?fref=ts